You may wonder how to cope with perfectionism because it’s impacting on your life. Alternatively you might be quite proud of being a ‘perfectionist’. Umh! Is perfectionism then a good thing, or is it a bad thing? There are some benefits of being a perfectionist, you certainly get things done, and people might look up…
You might worry about how to do things right in your life. In this post, I explain how you can make the right decisions, and also what you can do if you realise you have taken the wrong path. When you want to make the right decisions, you need to have available, correct and/or sufficient…
You might want to know why another person won’t listen to your point of view. In this article, I tell you why this happens and show you how to be assertive and be heard. Usually, negotiation skills are required in order to have your opinion heard. Why do people not listen to me? I was…
In this post, I explain how to cope with procrastination. I describe what procrastination is, why it occurs, and what you can do about it. As a clinical psychologist, I’m often asked for my view on certain challenges people have. I’ve been consulted about a particular scenario: “I hope you can help me understand something…
When you want things to change in your life, and you know what you want, or you can picture it in your mind, that’s great! However, problems can arise when your desire to change brings up negative thoughts – these then lead to other negative thoughts, and this blocks you from going any further. In…
In this article you will learn How to Keep Your Life in Balance by being able to identify the areas of your life that are out of balance and then seeing what adjustments you need to make. In life, we spend time in different areas of activity. We set goals and we achieve them. We…
Some people experience harassment and put downs from others; they belittle them or laugh at them in company. You may wonder why this happens, why people should behave in such a way. Dr Michel Paterson OBE explains about harassment and put downs : the reasons why people do this and how to cope. Reasons Why…
The Physiology of Trauma The primitive structures in our brain are set to respond to real and perceived threat in order to increase our chances of survival. Something which is clearly a threat to our lives, such as an assailant with a knife, or a predator in the jungle, results in a structure known as…
How Trauma Experiences can Impact our Lives during the Era of Covid-19 It is well documented that contracting the virus will be a gentle push for some, but for others their lives will be terminated in the most unpleasant way. But what about those who have not been infected (or at least don’t know if…
